Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Jesus: Our Source of Rest

Chuckle:  A group of kindergarteners was on an outing to a police station. One youngster pointed to a picture and asked if it really was a wanted person. “Yes,” answered the policeman. “Well,” wondered the child, “why didn’t you keep him when you took his picture?” 
Quote: "Christ's life outwardly was one of the most troubled lives that was ever lived: tempest and tumult, tumult and tempest, the waves breaking over it all the time. But the inner life was a sea of glass. The great calm was always there." --Henry Drummond
Jesus said "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke fits perfectly, and the burden I give you is light" (Matthew 11:28-30 NLT).
A yoke is a heavy wooden harness that fits over the shoulders of an ox or oxen. It is attached to a piece of equipment, like a plow or a wagon, the oxen are to pull. It should come as no surprise that Jesus was a master at using familiar objects and circumstances to teach deep spiritual lessons. Doubtless, everyone hearing Him speak was familiar with oxen and the yoke they endured. A "yoke of oxen," meaning a team of oxen, is a familiar term to many of us older folks, even today.
Jesus used the "yoke" to suggest that a person may be carrying heavy burdens of (1) sin, (2) excessive demands of religious leaders (Acts 15:10), (3) oppression and/or persecution, or (4) weariness in the search for God. He understood the toll such burdens could have on the spirit of the bearer, and His concern caused Him to provide a way for us to have relief and rest.
How about you? Are you suffering from severe burdens? Is there a sin in your life that has you enslaved? You may be bearing the burden of disappointment, grief, stress, overwork, or loneliness. If so, Jesus wants to make these burdens lighter for His followers, and the rest that Jesus promises is love, healing, and peace with God, not the end of all labor. It is a refreshing and uplifting rest that can change our whole attitude toward Him and toward others. His rest is the absence of guilt, worry, anxiety, and lack of meaning. He promises meaning, hope, assurance, peace, and joy even in the troubles we must endure in this life. A relationship with Jesus changes meaningless, wearisome toil into spiritual productivity and purpose.
Jesus said, "Come to me" for spiritual refreshment and rest as you labor. We must make a conscience decision to "go to him" and allow him to give us his rest. This means the end of trying to relieve our burdens with our own strength. Jesus, and only Jesus, can give the kind of rest and peace that will change your life.
"When God's work is done in God's way for God's glory, it will never lack God's supply. God is not obligated to pay for our selfish schemes. He is obligated to support his ministry." --Hudson Taylor
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Monday, January 25, 2016

Believe and Receive

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Chuckle:  What’s the difference between a cat and a comma?  A cat has its claws at the end of its paws; a comma is a pause at the end of a clause.
Quote: "If you are too busy to spend time alone with God, you are busier then God intends for you to be." --Unknown Author

"When you ask, you must believe (have faith) and not doubt" (James 1:6 NIV). Jesus said, ". . . whatever you ask for in prayer, believe (have faith) that you have received it and it will be yours" (Mark 11:24 NIV).
Think back with me to yesterday. From the time you awoke until you went to bed last night, how many times did you feel inadequate and lacking in wisdom to deal with a situation you were facing? If, after careful reflection on this question, you answer "none," then you probably went through the day depending upon your own strength and wisdom to make decisions and deal with issues that arose. You see, even if we think we know the best answer to a problem, or the best way to handle a situation, we are settling for second best wisdom -- ours.
In our first passage, James is referring to prayer for wisdom. However, when we ask God for wisdom, or anything, we must believe and not doubt. From our two passages, we see that believing (having faith) is essential for God to answer our prayers and grant our requests. Faith is believing God and acting on that faith. "If God says it, I believe it, and I will ask him!" When you pray, do you do so with confidence that God will answer, or is prayer just one more possibility among other resources you depend upon to handle life situations? Maybe you pray something like this: "OK, Lord, I'm asking, but I don't really think you will answer my prayer." What kind of faith is that? A doubting Christian is one who says he trusts God, but really trusts himself or someone else more. He says he has faith but he really doesn't.
A doubting mind is not completely convinced that God's way is best. Such a person makes God's Word just like human advice and retains the option to disregard or disobey it. This kind of person vacillates between allegiance to his subjective feelings, the world's ideas, and God's commands. He is divided inside. God's Word says he is "double-minded." "That person (without faith) should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded person, unstable in all he does" (James 1:7-8 NIV).
A double-minded Christian is one who knows Christ as Savior and is going to heaven, but on a daily basis does not have the faith to trust God in all situations and depend upon his divine wisdom to guide his life. We can pray all night to no avail unless we believe God and take him at his word. "Without faith, it is impossible to please God" (Hebrews 11:6 NIV). A pastor said this: "True wisdom enables us to do the right thing in the face of moral dilemmas and to interpret life's experiences in light of eternal values." Only God can grant this true wisdom for living. If we pray with God's will uppermost in our minds, our prayers will be pleasing to him and we can express our desires to him with the expectation that he will answer.
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Friday, January 22, 2016

God's Glory

Chuckle:  An honest seven-year-old admitted to her parents that Billy had kissed her after class. "How did that happen?" gasped the mother. "It wasn't easy," admitted the young lady, "but three girls helped me catch him!"
Quote:  “Set God apart from mortal men, and deem not that he, like them, is fashioned out of flesh. Thou knowest him not; now he appeareth as fire, now as water, now as gloom; and he is dimly seen in the likeness of wild beasts, of wind, of cloud, of lightning, thunder and rain. All power hath he, lo, this is the glory of the Most High God.” –Aeschylus  

"Now, the Lord is the Spirit, and wherever the Spirit of the Lord is, he gives freedom. And all of us have had the veil removed so that we can be mirrors that brightly reflect the glory of the Lord. And as the Spirit of the Lord works within us, we become more and more like him and reflect his glory even more" (2 Corinthians 3:17-18 NLT).
We often hear the term, "God's Glory." These are words we use to describe the totality of God's attributes or characteristics: holiness, love, grace, truth, goodness, mercy, justice, knowledge, power, eternality -- all that He is -- the very essence of His being. When we attempt to understand and describe the dimensions of God's Glory, we immediately run into the limitations of our finite minds and the inadequacy of words to accurately describe God's Glory. But as we walk with God and grow in our faith, the Holy Spirit gradually lifts the veil of mystery and more and more of God's Glory is revealed to us and through us.
God's glory is as intrinsic and essential to His nature as light is to the sun, as blue is to the sky, as wet is to water. We don't make the sun light, it is already light. We don't make the sky blue, It's already blue. We don't make the water wet, It's already wet. Light is intrinsic to the sun; Blue is intrinsic to the sky; and wetness is intrinsic to water. So it is with God. All His attributes are intrinsic to His nature and constitute His Glory which cannot be added to or subtracted from. It's the reality of His very being.
Contrary to God's intrinsic glory, we have no glory of our own, and our only glory is that which God grants to us. Even an earthly king has no glory except that granted to him by his subjects. He has no intrinsic glory, and His robe, scepter, and throne only depict the glory granted to him.
Likewise, we have no glory except that which is imparted to us by the Holy Spirit. We are like the moon, which has no intrinsic light of its own, that is limited to only reflecting the light from the sun. But as we continually gaze at God's nature with Spirit-enlightened minds, we can become more understanding of His glory, become more like Him, and more accurately reflect His nature and glory.
"The Word (Jesus) became flesh and made his dwelling with us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the One and Only, who came from the Father full of grace and truth" (John 1:14 NIV).
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Thursday, January 21, 2016

Living in Peace

Chuckle: Golfer: "I'd move heaven and earth to be able to break 100 on this course." Caddy: "Try heaven. You've already moved most of the earth."
Quote: "Where people are praying for peace the cause of peace is being strengthened by their very act of prayer, for they are themselves becoming immersed in the spirit of peace." --John Macquarrie

"Do your part (best) to live in peace with everyone, as much as possible" (Romans 12:18 NLT).
When it comes to living peacefully with everyone, I think many of us just give up long before we have done our best. It's a fact that some people are just hard to get along with, and our natural tendency is to throw in the towel and quit trying to build relationships with such folks. You may become frustrated when your desire for peace is ignored and the other party seems to thrive on conflict and disharmony. What are we to do in such situations?
The Golden Rule Principle makes it clear that we are to treat others as we desire to be treated. It does not say that we should stop treating others with love and respect simply because they do not return the favor. If we love others the way Christ loves us, we will not give up on being instruments of peace and grace no matter how difficult it may be. As believers, we are recipients of God's amazing grace and love and we should pass such grace and love on to others regardless of whether or not they deserve it or are receptive to it.
Remember, grace is unmerited favor and is extended without regard to it being deserved. Aren't you glad that God extended His grace and love to you when you did not deserve it? That hard to get along with person is as deserving of love, grace, and kindness as you and I are. So, to comply with God's instructions, we must not respond in anger or back away. Instead, we should continue to treat those difficult people with kindness and perhaps, eventually, your desire for peace will prevail and cause them to respond in kind. While you are busy making peace, you may be making a friend.
"Do what the Scriptures say: 'If your enemies are hungry, feed them . . . and they will be ashamed of what they have done to you.' Don't let evil get the best of you, but conquer evil by doing good" (Romans 12:20-21 NLT). "Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace" (Ephesians 4:3 NIV). In the Beatitudes Jesus said, "God blesses (makes happy) those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God" (Matthew 5:9 NLT).
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Friday, January 15, 2016

God, Where Are You?

Chuckle: The best kind of church is a Honda church, "All together in one Accord."
Ponder This: "Have courage for the great sorrows of life and patience for the small ones. And when you have finished your daily task, go to sleep in peace. God is awake!" --Victor Hugo
"O Lord, why do you stand so far away? Why do you hide when I need you the most?" (Psalm 10:1 NLT).
An amazing truth about Scripture is that Bible characters often express the exact same feelings we experience today. In my life, there have been times when God seemed so far away that I could no longer sense His promised presence and I have asked the same question as the psalmist, David.
Sometimes it seems that God is the furthest away when our troubles are the greatest. When times are the darkest, you may feel that God is intentionally hiding himself from you. Perhaps you or a loved one are battling with a potentially terminal illness. Maybe the love of your life has recently passed away. Maybe a child has broken your heart. Maybe a dear friend has betrayed your trust. At times like these, you must trust God's promises instead of your feelings. Sometimes you may be the one who has drawn away from God which leaves you feeling God has moved away. To restore that feeling of God's nearness, you must move toward him.
I am reminded of the little story about a married couple riding along in their pickup truck. The wife asks, "why is it that we no longer sit close together like we did when we first married?" The husband thought for a moment, then responded, "I haven't moved!" Could it be that over time you have drifted away from the intimate fellowship with your Lord? Listen to the psalmist's later expression of God's nearness. "You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my every thought. . . . I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence"  (Psalm 139:2, 7 NLT). This affirms the truth that God is always near even though you may feel otherwise.
When you became a Christian, God never promised you a life without troubles; but just the opposite. Jesus said to His followers, "In this world you will have trouble. But take heart!I have overcome the world" (John 16:33 NIV). God promise to be with you even in your darkest hours. Again, the psalmist expresses this truth in Psalm 23:4 NLT: "Even when I walk through the dark valley of death, I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me."
When you find yourself experiencing the dark times of trouble, pain, sorrow, or loneliness, please remember that God is close beside you. Jesus said, "Be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age" (Matthew 28:20 NLT).
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Thursday, January 14, 2016

Lawsuits and Christians

Chuckle: A patient told her doctor she had an episode of hallucinations. The doctor asked what they looked like. "Well, doctor, I really don't know," she said. "I wasn't wearing my glasses at the time."
Quote: "It is more important to maintain integrity than to amass a fortune." --William Arthur Ward
"When you have something against another Christian, why do you file a lawsuit and ask a secular court to decide the matter, instead of taking it to another Christian to decide who is right? I am saying this to shame you. Isn't there someone in all the church who is wise enough to decide these arguments? But instead one Christian sues another -- right in front of unbelievers. To have such lawsuits is a real defeat for you" (I Corinthians 6:1, 5-6 NLT).
Should Christians go to court against one another? Perhaps this question has never crossed the minds of most believers, but it deserves our careful and prayerful consideration. We live in a society obsessed with lawsuits. People sue each other over the most insignificant and ridiculous matters. It must be the "something for nothing" mentality that somehow being wronged even a little entitles a person to a windfall without working for it. Obviously, lawsuits are justified in some circumstances, but, as we study this lesson together, please remember the conduct of Christians should be different from the secular world. Our lives should give testimony that God has made us "a new creation" in Christ. We should have a different world view.
Here, Paul teaches how we should handle problems between Christians. We should not have to go to a secular court to resolve our differences. As Christians, we have the wisdom of God's Word and His Holy, so why go to those who lack God's wisdom to resolve our differences? In love, we should be able to resolve disputes among ourselves.
Here are a few reasons why Christians should not take their differences to secular courts? (1) The judge and jury may not be Christians, and may not to be sensitive to Christian values; (2) The reason for going to court is often revenge, and this should never be a Christian's motive; (3) Lawsuits between Christians harm the cause of Christ and cast the church in a bad light; and (4) Our love for each other should prevent our differences from rising to the level of anger, bitterness, revenge, or retribution.
"Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowances for each other's faults because of your love. Always keep yourselves united in the Holy Spirit, and bind yourselves together with peace" (Ephesians 4:2-3 NLT).
If we have this kind of relationship with one another as Christians, I don't think we will resort to lawsuits in most circumstances. Do you? It's true that some things must be settled in civil courts, but the bottom line for Christians is that we should take every precaution to avoid using them. By settling our differences in love, kindness, and understanding we send an important message to the world about the miracle God has performed in our hearts.
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

Faith is Revealedd by Actions

Chuckle: TEACHER: "John, why are you doing your multiplications on the floor?" JOHN: "Because you told me to do them without using tables!"
Quote: "Faith has no merit where human reason supplies the truth." --St Gregory the Great
"Was not our ancestor Abraham considered righteous for what he did when he offered his son Isaac on the altar? You see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did . . . In the same way, was not even Rahab the prostitute considered righteous for what she did when she gave lodging to the spies and sent them off in a different direction?" (James 2:21-22, 25 NIV).
In summarizing his teachings on faith and works, James gives two examples of genuine faith from the lives of Abraham and Rahab. These two were so very different: Abraham was a man, Rahab a woman -- a patriarch, a prostitute -- a major Old Testament character, minor character -- a Jew, a gentile. They had one thing in common -- real life-changing faith. Abraham believed God and followed Him. He put his total faith in God, and God made him righteous. He understood that faith is taking God at His word and obeying him.
Rahab lived in Jericho, a pagan city, the first walled city the Israelites must defeat to claim the promised land. The Israelites sent spies to get the lay of the land and evaluate the defenses. When they got there, they stayed in Rahab's house and told her about God. She believed and put her faith into actions by hiding them, thus putting her life at risk. Both Abraham and Rahab are listed in Hebrews 11 among the great heroes of faith.
There are four basic truths about real faith. It: (1) is consistent with God's word; (2) is always centered on Christ alone, the object of our faith; (3) always involves the mind, emotions, and will; and (4) always results in good works (deeds). Jesus referred to these acts of kindness to others as "bearing fruit." "By their fruits you will recognize them" (Matthew 7:16 NIV).
For us to have the maximum impact on the world for our Lord, our faith and actions must be consistent. "They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny Him" (Titus 1:16). Ephesians 2:8-10 puts faith and deeds in perspective: "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith -- and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God -- not of works, so that no one can boast. For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." We are saved first by faith and then as God's new creation (workmanship), we are to do the good works that God has planned for each of us to do.
Finally, good deeds/works can never earn salvation; however, true faith always results in a changed life that produces good deeds. The true joy of being a Christian comes from the assurance that we have eternal life through faith in Christ, from obedient service to our Lord, and benevolent deeds of kindness and love to others.
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

A Depraved Generation

Chuckle: "Two lawyers walked into the office one Monday morning, talking about their weekends. "I got a dog for my kids this weekend," said one. The other replied, "Good trade."
Quote: "You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person." Unknown Author
"The human heart is most deceitful and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? But I know! I, the Lord, search all hearts and examine secret motives. I give all people their due rewards, according to what their actions deserve" (Jeremiah 17:9-10 NLT). "Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, . . ." (Philippians 2:14-15 NIV).
The word "depraved" means totally wicked. It describes the condition of the human heart without the transforming work of the Holy Spirit through faith in the atoning blood sacrifice of Jesus Christ. When used in a Biblical sense, it implies that there is absolutely nothing we can do, in our own strength, to make ourselves less depraved. Most of us would agree that we live among people of a depraved generation. When I read the paper or hear the news, I'm amazed and appalled by the utter wickedness within the human heart. We sometimes forget how evil the world really is.
Paul admonished the Christians at Philippi to be different and "shine like stars in a universe"  (Philippians 2:15 NIV), while living in an otherwise evil generation of people. Paul's words remind me of the prayer of Jesus to his Father: "My prayer is not that you take them (his followers) out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one . . . As you sent me into the world, I have sent them into the world" (John 17:15-18 NIV). God does not want us to blend in with the world, but he wants us to stand out as different even while we remain in the world as his messengers and ambassadors.
Jesus, in the Sermon on the Mount, says we are to be the salt of the earth and the light of the world to those around us. He goes on to say a light should be put on a stand so that its light can shine for all. "In the same way, let your light shine before men that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven" (Matthew 5:16 NIV).
When we blend in with the depraved crowd, we hide the light of Christ that has been entrusted to us. Here are some ways we hide our light: (1) by being quiet when we should speak, (2) going along with the sinful ways of the crowd, (3) denying Jesus, the true Light, (4) letting sin dim our light, (5) not explaining our light to others, or (6) ignoring the needs of others.
Let's face it, a Christian has influence, either positive or negative. We must not hide from the world but let our influence count for Christ in such a way that God will get the glory for all the good we do. We should be a beacon of truth -- and not allow our light of Christ be hidden from the rest of the world.
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Monday, January 11, 2016

Running with Skunks

Chuckle: "A mother found her young sons playing with a litter of baby skunks. Remembering a smelly experience she'd had with one when she was a child, she shouted out, 'Run, children, run!' Each boy grabbed a skunk and ran!!!"
Quote: "We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give." --Winston Churchill

"As God said: . .Therefore, come out from them and separate yourselves from them, says the Lord. Don't touch their filthy things, and I will welcome you" (2 Corinthians 6:16-17 NLT).
"When Jesus calls us out of the world, he doesn't invite us to bring our smelly way of life with us. But many church members still come to church every Sunday smelling like a skunk. The proof of Christianity is not a great church attendance record or a baptismal certificate, but a changed life. Following the Lord includes giving up unsavory friends and habits. And if we're really converted (saved), that choice isn't hard to make. When Jesus calls us, we have to leave our sinful ways behind. We can't follow him if we're running with skunks." (This quote is from an article by Doug Fincher, San Augustine, Texas).
It's true that after we become believers, God wants us to come out from among the sinful elements of the world. We have been set apart by God to take on the image of Jesus Christ. He doesn't want us to act like the world, look like the world, be like the world, or have loyalty to the world. But He does want us to remain in the world as a positive influence for Him. In John 17:15, Jesus prayed to the Father for His disciples and all believers, including you and me, as follows: "My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one. They are not of the world, even as I am not of it (the world)."
It is God's plan that we be in the world but not of the world. To allow God's plan for your life to unfold, your allegiance and devotion must remain centered in your Lord while being used of Him to touch the lives of desperate people around you. You can do this by consistently avoiding even the "smell" of the world as a part of your life. The world follows Satan's agenda, and Satan is the avowed enemy of Jesus and his people.
As a Christian, the strength to remain free of worldly influence on your life comes from the Holy Spirit who resides within you. Just surrender your will completely to his and let him have complete control. We can never separate ourselves completely from sinful influences; however God wants us to resist becoming tainted by the sin around us, while, in the power of the Spirit, never giving in to sin or giving up on the sinner.
“Show mercy to those whose faith is wavering. Rescue others by snatching them from the flames of judgment. There still others to whom you need to show mercy, but be careful that you aren’t contaminated by their sins” (Jude 22-23 NLT).
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Friday, January 8, 2016

Toes or Woes

Chuckle: Son to dad watching TV: "Dad, tell me again how when you were a kid you had to walk all the way across the room to change the channel."
Ponder this: "Nothing spoils a confession like repentance." --Anatole France

"Woe to me!" I cried. "I am ruined! For I am a man of unclean lips, and I live among a people of unclean lips, and my eyes have seen the King, the Lord Almighty" (Isaiah 6:5 NIV).
I hope you participated in a worship service with your church last Sunday. If so, did being in God’s presence with other worshipers cause you to make changes in the way you live? Did the preaching of God's Word pierce and convict your heart of sin in your life? Did you respond to God's message by changing your attitudes, daily activities, and faithfulness to your church? Answers to these questions are terribly important in making our worship acceptable to God.
Years ago, I became aware of something that has caused me to evaluate my own worship and to better understand how people participate in and react to public worship. At the end of worship services, I noticed that some people would routinely say something like this to the pastor: "Pastor, that was a great message. You really stepped on my toes this morning." Then I noticed that, for some of those same people, experiencing God's presence in a public worship service did not result in observable changes in their behavior. Apparently they felt having their toes stepped on week after week was the goal of their worship experience.
Now, look with me at the attitude of Isaiah when he found himself in the presence of Almighty God. When confronted with God's Holiness, he immediately saw himself as an unworthy and sinful person in desperate need of God's mercy and forgiveness. He was so distraught about his condition that he exclaimed, "Woe to me for I am a man of unclean lips." When we find ourselves in a worship service and become aware that the God of the universe is present, that His Holy Spirit is working, and that He is speaking His Word to us through the music, the message, and prayers, our first reaction should be the same as Isaiah's: "Lord I am unworthy to be in your presence. Please forgive my sins and cleanse my unclean lips/life. Help me to adjust the way I live to bring honor and glory to your name."
Is it "Toes" or "Woes" when you go to church? Does your total experience leave you feeling good and happy, or is there also a time of self examination and repentance that makes you feel anything but happy? You see, it is not enough to go to church each Sunday, enjoy the music, listen to the message, and tell the pastor he stepped on your toes. Every worship experience -- every encounter with God -- should change us from the inside out. We should go into every service with open hearts anticipating what God wants to do in us. We should recognize that being in God's presence and hearing his voice should change our lives forever. If our lives are not changed after being in God's presence, we best examine our hearts to find out why.
Isaiah's reaction at being in God's Holy presence was to recognize his total depravity and unworthiness and to see his need for forgiveness and cleansing. When we reach this point of awareness in our worship, God can then change us and transform us into useful instruments for his kingdom's work. Once we have been cleansed, we can then rejoice and praise him for what he has done. Our worship should be a mixture of sorrow for our sins, repentance, confession, praise, joy and thanksgiving. But often I think we focus on the praise, joy, and thanksgiving, but neglect the repentance and sorrow for our sins. When we experience God's presence, each of us should ask, "do I experience woes or only stepped on toes?
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Thursday, January 7, 2016

A Difficult Principle

Chuckle -- A child's prayer: "Dear God, Did you intend for the giraffe to look like that or was it an accident?" Norma
Quote: “Trust is to human relationships what faith is to gospel living. It is the beginning place, the foundation upon which more can be built. Where trust is, love can flourish.” --Barbara B. Smith
"Here is a simple, rule-of-thumb guide for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them. Add up God's Law and Prophets and this is what you get" (Matthew 7:12 MSG).
Living by the Golden Rule principle is not just difficult, it's impossible in our own strength. How then can we say to an unbelieving world, "if we would only treat each other like we want to be treated," the world would be a better place?" This is a principle to live by for believers who have been changed from the inside out -- those who know Christ. When Jesus spoke these words, he was teaching His followers during his Sermon on the Mount. To fully understand and apply His words in our daily living requires a transformation by the Holy Spirit. "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV).
A missionary was sharing this verse (Matthew 7:12) with some natives. When he finished, the head of the group said, "If the God who made us would give us a new heart, then we could do this, but that's the only way."
Only if we have a new heart can this principle be applied as Jesus intends. William Barkley said, "to obey this principle, a man must become a new man with a new center to his life." Families and churches have been torn apart because people wouldn't treat one another as they want to be treated.
To be true to the teachings of Jesus, we must never apply the Golden Rule principle solely to get better treatment for ourselves. It should always be applied out of Christ-like love and compassion for others and to make their lives better. More than likely, it will result in better treatment for ourselves, but that should not be our motive. Agape (Christ-like ) love for others is unconditional -- it expects nothing in return.
Here is a challenge for each of us today. First, be sure you have trusted Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord. Then pray every day for the power to treat the people in your life with love, kindness, consideration, understanding, and acceptance in the same way you want to be treated. Ask God to help you refocus on building relationships. If you do this, your life and the lives of those around you will change dramatically and you will be happier and more completely fulfilled. One of the most difficult things to give away is kindness, for it is usually returned in even greater measure than that which was given.
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

Building Healthy Relationships (2)

Chuckle: A Child prayed, "Dear God, If you let the dinasor not extinct, we wouldn't have a country. You did the right thing." Jonathan
Quote: “Relationships of trust depend on our willingness to look not only to our own interests, but also the interests of others.” --Peter Farquharson
 
"Treat other people exactly as you would like to be treated by them -- this is the essence of all true religion" (Matthew 7:12 Phillips).
The Golden Rule principle has been unused, misused, and abused. Here are some perversions we hear: (1) Do unto others before they can do unto you; (2) Do unto others as they do unto you; or (3) I'm not a Christian but I just try to live by the Golden Rule. We must recognize that only our personal relationship with Christ gives us the ability to apply this principle in the power of the Holy Spirit. Here are some practical ways to build relationships.
First, If I want to be heard, I must listen. Attentive listening to someone says, "I care about you - you're important." A child may say, "Mom and Dad don't listen, therefore they must not care about me." This perception can drive children to talk to others instead of parents -- where they may get damaging advice and guidance. Husbands and wives may say, "he/she doesn't listen to me any more." "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry" (James 1:19 NIV). To be heard, learn to listen.
Second, If I want to be appreciated, I must appreciate others. William James said, "The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated." Paul said, in Romans 12:10 NIV, "Honor one another above yourselves." Expressing appreciation is difficult for some people because they were never appreciated as they grew up. It takes a relationship with Jesus Christ to make it possible for you to fully apply this principle in your life.
Third, if I want to be encouraged, I must encourage. "Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up" (Romans 15:2 NIV). We live in a critical, condemning world. What a refreshing change when we build people up by encouraging them and making them feel special.
Fourth, If I want acceptance, I must accept others. Some Christians get to be self-righteous and critical and cannot accept others. Those that Jesus admonished most were Pharisees and Sadducees who thought they were more righteous than everyone else and saw the sins of others but not their own. Jesus accepts people, not their sins. He loves them for who they are, not for the way they act. Sometimes, we would rather judge than witness. "Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you" (Romans 15:7 NIV).
Fifth, If I want consideration and kindness, I must give consideration and kindness. "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you"  (Ephesians 4:32 NIV). We need to shout it, preach it, and teach it - Christians are to be nice.
Sixth, If I want to be understood, I must be understanding. Peter Drucker, says most problems in business management results from faulty communications - not understanding the feelings of others. The same is true in families and churches. We should practice hearing from the other person's perspective. Along with understanding comes patience and gentleness.
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Building Healthy Relationships

Chuckle - Child's prayer: "Dear God, if Cain and Abel had their own rooms, maybe they wouldn't kill each other. It works with me and my brother." Larry
Quote: “Self-respect and a clear conscience are powerful components of integrity and are the basis for enriching your relationships with others.” --Denis Waitley
"So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you . . . ." (Matthew 7:12 NIV). "Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves" (Romans 12:10 NIV).
Healthy relationships are essential for a happy and fulfilled life. However, many have accumulated their wealth by walking over and mistreating family, friends, and employees; and then, in old age, they come to realize they are devoid of priceless and meaningful relationships. Without the stimulation of healthy relationships, we can easily become lonely, bitter and angry. God intends for us to first have a joyful love relationship with Him and then with others. He knows warm and rewarding relationships are vital to our joy, peace, and contentment. So He gave us this principle to use in everyday life.
It sounds so simple and is often called "The Golden Rule," but it's not a rule at all, but a principle, or truth, to be lived out. It's something you weave into the very fabric of your life. It has been memorized by many, but lived out by few. Today, let God's Spirit shake us awake and make us live out this truth. I believe this “golden" principle summarizes all the Bible has to say on the subject of interpersonal relationships.
If we were committed to this principle, by the power of the Holy Spirit, it would revolutionize our circle of relationships. If 50 of your neighbors would do this, it would change your community. If all of us did, it would change our whole county -- a powerful reality – an undeniable truth. This principle requires each of us to take the initiative in relationship building and not wait to see how others treat us. God wants it to become a part of our regenerated nature and an action rather than a reaction. John Maxwell said this, "Instead of putting others in their place, put yourself in their place." Jesus practiced this principle - everyone he met was a VIP. He treated them as special no matter their status in life. He cared about them and wants us to do likewise.
Do you treat your spouse, children, and other family members the way you want them to treat you? Do you show them they are important by the way you relate to them? Many of us even treat casual acquaintances better than our own family members. This is a Christian crime.
What about our enemies? The Golden Rule principle is to be applied to everyone, not just a select few. But, you say, "They didn't treat me that way?" That's the point of this verse - believers are to be different. This principle says we treat others the way we want to be treated, not the way they treat us. When our treatment of others is consistent with the Golden Rule principle, precious and lasting relationships and friendships will result.
Love, Jerry & Dotse

Monday, January 4, 2016

2016, A Wonderful Year

Chuckle: A woman went to a marriage counselor and complained of her husband's overwhelming self-interest. "It was evident from the minute we married," she said. "He even wanted to be in the wedding pictures."
Quote: "If you truly love Him, your service for Him in the new year will be of the quality that He desires." --Henry Blackaby
A WONDERFUL YEAR
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light" (Matthew 11:28-30 NIV).
If you love the Christmas season as much as I do, you wish it would never end. But, for Christians, the spirit of Christmas need never end. Our joy should continue all year long just from reflecting on the love of God that has given us eternal life through faith in the crucified and risen Babe of Bethlehem. With the passing of Christmas, our minds logically turn to the new year. Let's listen to God as we prepare our hearts for 2016. There's a story about a happy little boy with a baseball cap, glove, bat, and tremendous confidence.
"Cocking his bat, he tossed the ball into the air, saying, "I’m the greatest batter in the world!" Then he swung and missed. "Strike one," he said. He picked up the ball, examined it, and then threw it into the air again. As he swung, he repeated, "I’m the greatest batter in the world." Once again he missed. "Strike two," he said. This time, he stopped to examine his bat to make sure there wasn’t a hole in it. Then he picked up the ball, adjusted his cap, and tossed the ball into the air for the third time, and again said, "I’m the greatest batter in the world," and swung with all his might - and missed for the 3rd straight time. "Wow" he cried, "What a pitcher. I’m the greatest pitcher in the world!"
Are you a great batter or a great pitcher? One thing is for sure, at times we have all struck out. So, it’s good to start over afresh with the new year. As you face a new year, you may be painfully remembering how you failed your Lord in 2015. Maybe you were not faithful to His calling on your life. Maybe you lived a life of disobedience. Like the little boy, may I suggest that your attitude will largely determine whether 2016 is a year of victory or a year of defeat. The Bible says: "Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus"  (Philippians 2:5 NIV).
In our basic passage, God is calling each of us to make a conscious decision to come to him for comfort and rest, and to learn from him - learn to have his attitude about life, love, and service to others. Jesus said, "I have come that they (you and I) may have life, and have it to the full" (John 10:10 NIV). He's talking about life in the here and now as well as in eternity.
We all enter the New Year asking, "What will it mean to me?" "What can I do with it?" These are natural new year thoughts. We don't know what the future holds -- but we know who holds the future and that the new year will be what we allow God to make of it. Without a promise of tomorrow, We can plan, with God's help, to make 2016 the best year of our lives.  If this is to be a Happy New Year, a year of usefulness, a year in which we shall live to make this earth better, it is because God will direct our pathway. How important then, to feel our dependence upon Him!  --Matthew Simpson
Love, Jerry & Dotse