Chuckle: "I drive much too fast to worry about
cholesterol"
Quote: "My best friend is the one who brings out
the best in me."
--Henry Ford
"There are 'friends' who destroy each other, but a real friend
sticks closer than a brother" (Proverbs 18:24 NLT).
It's easy to treat people
as a means to an end rather than as ends in themselves. As a gregarious man once
boasted, 'I have friends I haven't used yet.' A false friend is like your
shadow. As long as there is sunshine, he sticks close by. But the minute you
step into the shade, he disappears.
Do you have someone who you
consider a close friend? Is that person trustworthy with even your most personal
information? Is that person someone who lifts you up with wise and helpful
counsel when appropriate? In our selfish, what's in it for me, world, it seems
to me that true, genuine, and lasting friendships are few and far between. In
many situations, casual acquaintances have been substituted for legitimate
friendships. Many people are lonely among the crowds and feel cut off and
alienated from other people. When they look at all the people around them, it
makes them even more aware of their isolation. As we think about friendships
today, let's do so from two perspectives: the friend you need; and the friend
you are.
All of us are in need of friends
who genuinely care about us, stick close to us, listen to us, and offer loving
assistance in our time of need. They are faithful both when things are going
well and in times of adversity. A true friend is not judgmental, but offers
love, encouragement, support, unselfish advice and constructive criticism when
appropriate. It is better to have one friend like this than dozens of false and
superficial "friends." A true friend is not hot and cold -- he or she is
consistent and always has your best interests at heart. "A friend loves at all times, and a brother
is born for adversity" (Proverbs 17:17 NIV).
A friend who genuinely cares about
you may find it necessary to give you unpleasant counsel and advice at times.
However, you will always know that such advice from a trusted friend is for your
own good. "Wounds from a friend are
better than many kisses from an enemy" (Proverbs 27:6 NLT). On
the other hand, a false friend may whisper soothing and sweet words and happily
send you on your way. Even though painful at times, a friend's advice can be
very beneficial if we will only listen. "The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and
incense" (Proverbs 27:9 NLT).
The best way to find a true friend
is to be one. There are people around you who are in desperate need of a friend.
Ask God to guide you to a person who has a friendship need that only you can
satisfy, then accept the challenge of being a true and trusted friend. Be aware
that a careless tongue will destroy trust, the very foundation of friendships.
"A troublemaker plants seeds of
strife; a gossip separates the best of friends" (Proverbs
16:28 NLT). An extension and paraphrase of the Golden Rule: "Be a friend to
another and as you would have him or her be a friend to you."
Love, Jerry &
Dotse
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