Heaven or Harvard

Chuckle: "In a school essay on parents, one little girl wrote: 'We get our parents when they are so old it is hard to change their habits!'"

Good Quote: "Good parents are not afraid to be momentarily disliked by children during the act of enforcing rules." --Jean Laird

HEAVEN OR HARVARD?

"And now a word to you fathers. Don't make your children angry by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction approved by the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4 NLT).

Sometime ago, I read a newspaper column by Betsy Hart which I want to share with you verbatim. If you are as impressed as I was by it, please share it with other parents and grandparents.

"I like to say that my goal for my children is Heaven, not Harvard. Now if my kids go to Harvard on the way to heaven, that's fine; But if I so focus on Harvard and success in this world that they miss Heaven, I will have failed them -- and for all of eternity.
It starts with training them in the wise habits of the heart. I was so fortunate to have wise friends in my church -- families mentoring and challenging me, teaching me things like (gasp!), It's the job of us parents to lead our kids. It's not up to the experts, it's not up to the village, it's up to us. So with apologies to Stephen Covey and gratefulness to my many wise friends, I distill it down to the seven essential habits of the successful home, in this case the seven "A's":
1. The culture teaches us that success in the world is what's important. Instead, we parents need to have as a mission for our kids something that will really matter for them, now and forever.
2. The culture tells us that our children are inherently wise and virtuous. But the wise parent sees a child's heart accurately, meaning he understands that the foolish tendencies of his child's heart are the biggest danger facing him.
3. The parenting experts want us to believe that we must "earn" our authority in the lives of our kids, as one such leading expert puts it. Instead, we parents must accept our role of authority in our children's lives for the good of our children. And we must understand that we as parents are under God's authority too.
4. The culture seeks to protect children from every conceivable disappointment or frustration. This isn't the way to build resilient children. This is the way to build children who will be routinely buffeted by life's storms, even the storms God Himself asks them to weather.
5. The world teaches children to ask, "What have you done for me lately?" But wise parents teach their children an attitude of gratefulness.
6. The culture wants our children to believe they are wonderful right now, as is. Instead, our duty as parents is to affirm our children not because they are wonderful today, as crazy as we are about them, but because they are created in God's image.
7. The world wants us parents to be our children's 'friends.' But the wise parent knows that to be a child's advocate, to be on our child's side, means we have to care less about whether our children like us when they are 13 then when they are 30. And that to really be our child's advocate, we need to pray for our kids and wisdom in parenting them.
This list is hardly exhaustive. But whatever we decide are going to be the essential habits of our homes, we parents have to persevere in the moment, even when we don't see the fruits of our perseverance in the moment."

As parents, our most important responsibility is to lead our children to a saving faith in our Lord Jesus Christ. This will assure them the best possible life here on earth and an eternal home in heaven.

Love, Jerry & Dotse